WILL THEY EVER JUST STOP AND LISTEN…

What do you do when people you try to get along with…, you know the ones who will never change?  You know the skit right…You say something that you feel is not alarming in any fashion; comes out sounding kind and attentive from your perspective. But no matter how you say something or when…it is always taken out of proportion, and you are left on the receiving end of rude, totally obnoxious behavior and commentary. You even try to give these people or person the benefit of the doubt; that perhaps something is going with them that they do not have a handle on and the fire behind those negative comments is directed at you without them meaning to do it. The person dishing it out may have pride issues or not one to admit they were wrong or made a mistake. It could also be because of certain mental/behavioral problems where their responses may exude automatic defensiveness no fault of their own.

I would have to say, a profound ” Yes”. These things do happen quite routinely in people’s lives and sometimes there are no “benefit of the doubt” possibilities; sometimes it is what it is. It could be that the person or people who you know do not like you or has no real interest in what you have to say or is in a sticky situation that places you both in the heart of whatever it is going on indefinitely. This could involve family, friends, acquaintances etc.

But what do you do with all that negative throwback?

First, you pray on it and ask the Lord for forgiveness for your thoughts or words if they appear unforgiving and mean it. You may have to do this several times before it sticks (laugh). Keep in mind that those people are going to be who they are until whenever…but you can pray for them even if you may not feel like they deserve it. All of us have our quirks and ways about things, even in how and what we think about certain things that sometimes don’t equate to another. That’s cool and understandable; at least it should be. None of us are the same people.

When someone crosses over the respect line the same holds true as stated earlier about prayer and forgiveness and praying for that person or people. It doesn’t help to get into a fuse over it and the unjust bantering back and forth. Sweeten your choice of words that will perhaps help them see a benefit of some kind to lessen the electrical charge. It may not be easy at first, but the more you release it and give it to God to handle the lesser it pangs you, even if it must be a daily devotional practice.

Don’t let negative words spoken dissolve you to something you need not become because once you decide to play on the same field as they do the situation will not turn out well and you will not be the better for it. I know from experience and practice.

I pray this helps those out there dealing with some heavy situations that they feel they just cannot get out of their system. It may be something totally different from what this blog is about and that is ok too. The framework still works the same.

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